Meeting for the first time... Where is it safe?

[Beatriz]

Ok this has been bothering me for a while now… 

 

I’ve been on a few dates with men I met online, and the first time we meet I always want it to be on neutral grounds, like a bar or a café etc.  But so often the guy tells me something like  ”babe, we already know what we want, so why waste any time? I'll come to your place, or you to mine”. And we’ve never even met before!  

Of course after a couple of dates (or even on the first date) when you feel like you’ve gotten to know the person a bit better it’s a different story. But to meet at home for the first time? Like do you check his ID card?? What do you do? 

 

Casual dating seems to be sooooo easy for men, but personally as a woman I’m a bit scared…

Does anyone feel the same way? How do you normally do? 

[Le****]

For men it´s similar. A first date should be on neutral grounds at ervery time. That´s valid for men and women.

But you´ll have never security, if you will have had one or more dates before. There´s always a residual risk to meet the wrong choice.

[husalm956]

I don't know

[DavidSteelcart]

eyyyyyyy honestly

 

dudette

 

just be yourself. it's what i do and it seems to work all well and swell

[Deleted Member]

Just go to a place where both of you can walk out if you feel like it. If a man does not understand/accept that for the first time you meet, go find someone else...

[nomi001]

I Agree . its good first we meet on open place like bar coffe shop etc talk then next time decide for date

[Rocky111-8779]

No problem

 

[William338]

On 7/7/2016 at 6:23 AM, Beatriz said:

Ok this has been bothering me for a while now… 

 

I’ve been on a few dates with men I met online, and the first time we meet I always want it to be on neutral grounds, like a bar or a café etc.  But so often the guy tells me something like  ”babe, we already know what we want, so why waste any time? I'll come to your place, or you to mine”. And we’ve never even met before!  

Of course after a couple of dates (or even on the first date) when you feel like you’ve gotten to know the person a bit better it’s a different story. But to meet at home for the first time? Like do you check his ID card?? What do you do? 

 

Casual dating seems to be sooooo easy for men, but personally as a woman I’m a bit scared…

Does anyone feel the same way? How do you normally do? 

well it all goes according to what you what to do if your real let us get together right now and fuck our brains out and make mad passionate love till cum like a wild woman. 

yet if there's more you must take it one day at a time the sex may be good but is that all you want to get 

[Deleted Member]

I am man I have been in places most don't dare go...I will not go to her home to Meet eye to eye for 1st time..why ??? Well who's there waiting to do you harm?? It could be the most expensive neighborhood.. nope... a coffee shop ice cream shop.a bar.... women should have a.friend to call right in front of him at the table .. safety..eye to eye not just walk up to a private home or apartment..who is inside waiting ??.. I'll meet you 1st ok then who knows..

[spin7cat]

I agree that poeple should meet first or ever use video chat before that so they can have a idea of who there dealing with.

[re****]

Any public place is OK.

[Gi****]

I also would like to know about the safe place. Thanks!

[My****]

Library.. Then fuck in the elevator , Dont forget to pull the doors half way up/down....

Edited November 28, 2019 by MysterDee

[zo****]

Is this a serious question? Are you that desperate? Have some self-confidence, you should ALWAYS meet first in a public, safe forum. I can't really believe anyone is really asking this question, well unless you are very desperate and have no value of you, your self-esteem. C'mon, critical thinking is necessary, don't be a weak person. That has to be the most unattractive characteristic of a man or woman. Know yourself and know what you deserve

[fu****]

As a gay guy my favourite place to meet men is in a sauna.Everyone is naked or semi naked.Everyone wears a robe or towel but if people are looking for a little one to one or play time in the glory holes there really is no reason to wear clothes as we walk to the private rooms.The hot tub is somewhere everyone strips.It's an easy way to find out if i am attracted to a guy,sexually attracted to a guy,would i like him to have sex with me,go back to his place or mine for more,and the possibility of something more than agreeing to 👅 his dick the next time we meet.

[jo****]

Hi how are you? , I think that the ideal is to have a plan of 2 or 3 appointments outside the intimacy of the home, whether in a cafeteria, restaurant, etc. It is the best to get to know each other healthily and then see what that relationship leads to.

Edited July 22, 2020 by MOD-Sunshine
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