Most of us on online dating sites have gotten them—the dreaded dick pics—including some of my heterosexual male friends. Which always seemed odd to me. Do people even read the ‘about me’ sections of dating sites? More often than not, they don’t.

I took a good look at this because one of my dear friends, Ginger Fett, gets dick pics almost daily. She’s constantly pinging our group chat to announce, “Got another one!” We all laugh, and think, again? It doesn’t matter what dating site she’s on, she just keeps getting them.

 

While offering us great entertainment, I had to wonder if dick pics have ever worked


Had she ever had interest in any of the men simply because she liked what she saw? Doubtful. Still, let's be scientific: I decided to break this topic into two categories—people who are looking for sex alone, and people who want a relationship. Both, oddly, think firing off a few dick pics is the best strategy for approaching that special someone.

For the swingers I know, dick pics actually do work. If length and thickness are a factor for someone looking for a one night stand, or fuck buddy, then a picture is handy right up front. If the size isn’t what that person is looking for, they move on.

Most the people I know, however, are looking for relationships, either as a casual ongoing sexy fling or something more serious.  They don’t care about size as much as they do substance of the person. In this case, those sorts of pictures are problematic. If you’re clearly looking for a partnership, and what you’re sent is a photo of someone’s package, it sends a clear signal that your areas of interest might not be compatible.

 

Should you really be sending those dick pics?


dick pics - do they ever work

 

There are also cases where the person might be open to a relationship or fuck buddy, therefore a dick picture may be okay. Since Ginger is open to both, I asked her if there were any times when the dick pic did work for her. If the larger than life photo did get the guy a date. Here’s what she had to say…

“No. Randomly dropped dick pics, or images sent in a conversation about puppies or something nonrelated, don’t work. They are a slap in the face. If it's agreed upon—as in you’ve been talking a while and it’s hot and asked for—then it's okay. If not, it's shocking, disgusting, and rude.” – Ginger Fett

In my own experience, I find these sorts of pictures to be irritating. My online dating profile clearly states what my interests are, and pictures of body parts will get the guy an instant rejection. If and when I ask for one, great! But until then, I see this as no different than a flasher on the street. It’s vulgar when not desired or warranted and will never get him a date with me.
The bottom line is this… Don’t send a picture of your dick unless the person asks for one. If they've said they want one, then feel free, but otherwise maybe just "hi" will do.

Sienna Saint-Cyr writes erotica and blogs about kink, poly, body image, and most things relating. Follow her on her website or on Twitter @siennasaintcyr.

 

 

© beautyblowflow / Dollar Photo Club and Adam Freeburn über Flickr with CC BY 2.0 license

 


YOU MAY ALSO LIKE

4 comments

Your content will need to be approved by a moderator

Guest
You are commenting as a guest. If you have an account, please sign in.
Add a comment...

×   You have pasted content with formatting.   Remove formatting

  Only 75 emoticons maximum are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor



Guest

Posted

I agree completely

Share this comment


Link to comment
Share on other sites
Guest

Posted

shit

Share this comment


Link to comment
Share on other sites
Guest

Posted

fuck

Share this comment


Link to comment
Share on other sites
Guest

Posted

Dating Online is the Worst. I do not understand why people do this. Each woman gets 100's of male solicitations per day. Decent guys get treated like. Because they think you are the same as the rest. If I didn't experience this I wouldn't have said it. F Online Dating.

Share this comment


Link to comment
Share on other sites

Similar articles